• Ashenlux@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    2 months ago

    Exactly! Why the fuck would anyone want to date someone that much younger than them? I will never understand why so many men want to date girl so young.

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      2 months ago

      A friend of friend I’ve met a couple times is into me. They’re 23 and I’m 30 and I still don’t have an interest. They’re perfectly nice, but…

      I think after 28-30 it starts to really not matter that much but before that even smallish gaps can be pretty questionable. And any dude that would consider someone their age to be a “hag” probably largely dates younger because mature, experienced women can tell they’re really just garbage man-children.

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        2 months ago

        really just garbage man-children

        It’s a green-text, we knew that from the get-go

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      2 months ago

      younger partners are easier to control.

      and less worldly experience means they won’t notice their dull personality.

      lack of maturity and life milestones to date similar age ranges.

      over emphasis on bodily needs.

      and i repeat, control.

  • kadaverin0@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    2 months ago

    I dated a 19 year old at 22 and even in that relatively minor gap there was palpable divide in mindset and priorities. I was looking to start a career and get my life established. She graduated high school a few month prior to turning 19 and just wanted to get high and watch musicals.

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    2 months ago

    And now you understand why older men dating young girls is creepy, even if legal.

    They have nothing in common. There’s no way. It’s pure physical attraction above all else.

    Edit: Seemingly a lot of older people down voting this are in denial about how much they have in common with some 18 year old girl/guy as a romantic partner. You understand you’re not fooling anyone, right? Not even other people like you. Underneath, you all know what you’re about.

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      2 days ago

      you say this like they’re trying to fool anyone…it’s a transaction, they both know it, everyone else knows it

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      2 months ago

      A lot of people are downvoting this because a 19 year old is an adult who can make their own choices and you are insinuating that there’s something so objectively wrong with dating an older person that it should be illegal.

      • neukenindekeuken@sh.itjust.works
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        2 months ago

        I am not in any way suggesting it should be illegal. I don’t think I mentioned that once.

        What I am insinuating that if you’re that young dating someone much older, there is almost always a massive power imbalance between the two in the relationship, romantically, and so it’s a very difficult thing to overcome.

        If you’re a 30/40/50+ year old person dating a 19 year old, there is usually something wrong with one party, the other, or both in that scenario. A 19 year old, romantically, is not mature enough or at the same place in their life as a 50 year old person. This will, at best, strain the relationship significantly as each partner will want something different out of life as the relationship progresses.

        If they don’t, then one of them is likely a deeply broken individual. And that’s usually going to be the much older person that’s got some issues happening.

        The 19 year old truly doesn’t know any better, or thinks they do, or is getting something in trade like security from the much older person and they’re willing to give up other aspects of their life in trade for this.

    • FauxLiving@lemmy.world
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      2 months ago

      When we decided to mind our own business and stop moralizing other people’s relationships based on our personal feelings.

      • sleen@lemmy.zip
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        2 months ago

        Exactly, this “rule” is really just equivalent to other forms of snake oil there is. It is baseless and completely made up.

        • GhostedIC@sh.itjust.works
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          2 months ago

          Found Leo’s account.

          Seriously though why so hostile about this? Of course it’s made up, it’s a general rule of thumb, and it describes whether people are likely to look at a couple and say, “ew”.