• GargleBlaster@feddit.org
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    SSRI are a class of antidepressants that can hinder your ability to orgasm.

    But since the person writing the comment is probably female and straight she’s used to not having an orgasm while having sex.

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      Ah! I hadn’t considered it being from the perspective of a woman. 🤦 There go my inherent biases getting the better of me.

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      Which is the case, because traditional penetrative sex (penis in vagina) does not stimulate the woman particularly much. They’re more stimulated by the clitoris, where oral sex works well.

      Well, and because penetrative sex does stimulate men quite a bit, so they orgasm early on and then often don’t continue stimulating the woman.

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        Which is the case, because traditional penetrative sex (penis in vagina) does not stimulate the woman particularly much.

        I think that’s a waaay to broad claim to hold true for all vagina-havers.

        AFAIK, it’s an anatomical predisposition. Some get more stimulation from penetrative sex(I think because the clitoris “wings” are more snug with the vagina), others get less.

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          Well, sure, I wasn’t trying to claim that for all vagina-havers, just enough of a majority that this stereotype that OP alluded to exists.

          But yeah, it is what I’ve heard. I haven’t conducted a representative survey…

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        The second part of that turned out to be more true for me. Older guys have more stamina (have trouble getting off) and I found out this is not a ‘two kinds of women’ thing. I can and do get off from the more indirect stimulation, it just never happened with my ex because he was quick (he did always take care of me first, not complaining) but now I am older this changed.