I’m poly leaning (ambi amorous is a term I learned recently that fits me pretty well) so I get to hear a lot from women about what it’s like in the front lines, so to speak.
Like. The bar is so fucking low. In so many ways. And nothing women want is onerous or in most cases difficult. At all. Women talk constantly about everything you need to be successful in dating and men seem to just look around like “what are those sounds”?
The most difficult part of dating for a straight guy is showing your partner you’re not totally full of shit. I say showing because women have been lied to and manipulated by so many fucking people that they rightly don’t trust a fucking word you say. I wouldn’t either tbh.
Oh man, I could rant all day about that because it recently resulted in me becoming homeless, but I’ll hold back. Long story short, poor communication > break up/moving out > nowhere to live > crashing on my girlfriend’s couch (we’re poly too. She’s married, with a one bedroom apartment, in a high cost of living area. There’s almost nowhere I can afford by myself.)
Communicating is so important, and you’re right - it’s even more important to show your love through what you do. Actions speak louder than words, after all. Anyone can make a promise, but someone who will follow through is a rarity.
(My ex knows my Lemmy account name, but I don’t care. If you’re reading this - I want my external harddrives back!)
It’s wild how many people don’t understand these things.
You sound like a good, understanding partner. Whoever you get to spend time with is lucky to have you. :)
It is wild.
I’m poly leaning (ambi amorous is a term I learned recently that fits me pretty well) so I get to hear a lot from women about what it’s like in the front lines, so to speak.
Like. The bar is so fucking low. In so many ways. And nothing women want is onerous or in most cases difficult. At all. Women talk constantly about everything you need to be successful in dating and men seem to just look around like “what are those sounds”?
The most difficult part of dating for a straight guy is showing your partner you’re not totally full of shit. I say showing because women have been lied to and manipulated by so many fucking people that they rightly don’t trust a fucking word you say. I wouldn’t either tbh.
Oh man, I could rant all day about that because it recently resulted in me becoming homeless, but I’ll hold back. Long story short, poor communication > break up/moving out > nowhere to live > crashing on my girlfriend’s couch (we’re poly too. She’s married, with a one bedroom apartment, in a high cost of living area. There’s almost nowhere I can afford by myself.)
Communicating is so important, and you’re right - it’s even more important to show your love through what you do. Actions speak louder than words, after all. Anyone can make a promise, but someone who will follow through is a rarity.
(My ex knows my Lemmy account name, but I don’t care. If you’re reading this - I want my external harddrives back!)
Yeah you dick, give her back her fucking external hard drives.