Hey! Happy to help.

I have really enjoyed physical labor tasks (growing food, helping with inventory and collection/sorting, picking up trash or helping someone clean their house) and building things with my hands. Unfortunately writing isn’t in my wheelhouse but I’m positive there will be something you can enjoy doing while contributing to a cause that means something to you.

I try to remind myself that practice makes perfect and habits don’t start themselves. Also sounds like you need to give yourself some grace. Sometimes we are hardest on ourselves. (I have personal experience in this department)

You said you weren’t interested in tough love or pep talks so I’m using this as a call to action.

Most of us crave community and don’t know where to start. Beyond more fun options like trying to see if there are local gaming groups near you there are also mutual aid networks (one of my favorites is called Mutual Aid Disaster Relief). If you have a skill or interest to offer you will find more people in these kinds of groups to collaborate with. You might not find best friends right away but you will find neighbors.