Check out the TV mini series Normal People (2020). Some main plot elements sound very much similar to your experience.

Have you ever read the book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to heal from distant, rejecting, or self-involved parents by Lindsay C. Gibson? It helped my wife immensely with similar struggles. Your library should have a copy of it. She said it was like taking the blindfolds off and how once you recognize it you can’t unsee it.

Here’s a good article too https://www.additudemag.com/emotionally-immature-parents-adhd/

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I have a Zojirushi NS-ZCC10 that gets used 3-5 times a week since I got it 12 years ago. It’s an amazing kitchen tool and the rice comes out fantastic every time. Sometimes I’ll set it up to make steel cut oats so they are ready for me when I wake up in the morning.