My therapist specialised in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, so we started out by trying to identifying things in my life that I was overreacting to. It turned out I was dealing with Real Shit, and remarkably chill under the circumstances. We had to abandon the CBT approach.

That was still helpful though. By asking the question, it validated my behaviour, so I didn’t doubt myself as much going forward. It helped me make some big life changes.

Learning that quetzalcoatlus may have moved around like giraffes breaks my brain. They should not be so similar and yet so very different.

I grew up assuming every adult should be self-sufficient, so I learnt all of cooking, cleaning, gardening, basic repairs, home maintenance, sewing, etc. I think the most likely people to have a problem with that never learnt it themselves, so they feel inadequate.

It became an issue in my first serious relationship because she didn’t cook or clean much. She definitely never tried to nurture so much as a plant. I had no problem with that because I could, but she started to feel less feminine, and eventually turned it around on me. The guys she left me for were completely useless, but they didn’t highlight her insecurities so she was happy. At least for a short while.

People who are confident in their identity and abilities don’t do this, and that’s who you want to find anyway, regardless of gender.

Weird. Have they seen how much you can provide from a garden?

Also, having a garden doesn’t preclude one from hunting… whatever that means in the modern era. You can only eat so much meat.

Why would anyone want something that provides the olfactory promise of bacon, but never delivers actual bacon?

She doesn’t spend the cash. It’s her ID card.