Do you care about the person that gave the gift? Do you trust and believe that they love you and got the gift in good faith, trying to do well even if it was flawed? Then express gratitude for the intention, even if you don’t want the gift. “Sorry, I’m happy with the one I have and don’t want to replace it.”

Do you care about the person you want to give a gift to? Do you trust and believe that they love you and them disliking a gift isn’t an indicator that they dislike you? Then humbly accept that your gift wasn’t the right one, and work together with them to find something they would prefer instead.

It isn’t difficult if you just talk with each other. Sometimes people pick bad gifts. Sometimes people are sentimentally attached to items. Sometimes people are very practical and have a “if it isn’t broken, it doesn’t need to be replaced/fixed” mentality that supercedes other considerations. Me, I have the opposite extreme. Even if a gift I receive is nothing something I have any intention of using, I feel obligated to find a space and use for it as a show of appreciation to the person that gifted it to me, because I wasnt owed the gift in the first place and I have gratitude they were thinking of me. That can be (is) unhealthy in an entirely different way.

But even if you think a gift is dumb and wrong and it’s an insult that they even gave it to you, if you love that person you swallow that pride and let them know you appreciate what they were trying to do but that they got it wrong this time. This can be done gently instead of coldly. And I am not saying OP had done it coldly, maybe the gift giving partner has insecurities they need to deal with. I don’t know, I wasn’t there. Understanding why the gift giving partner would be upset that their gift was snubbed only takes a hint of empathy to understand, though. On the other hand, it’s also easy to understand why the receiver would be confused why the gift was chosen in the first place, with the information provided. Both are missreading each other on different points.

We literally established a rule early in our marriage. I’m not allowed to gift nerdy t shirts. They don’t like them. I love them. I thought they would like them but they do not. So they asked me to stop. This feels the same.

This point stood out to me. I’m assuming that you verbally established a “no nerdy t-shirts” rule, but did not verbally establish the “no new items” rule. If it was only implied, or you felt it was obvious to not buy you new gifts, but did not explicitly establish that rule like you did for the t-shirts, then it is not the same. Neither of you are bad or wrong for the moscommunication, but this is a great opportunity to have an open and frank discussion about gift expectations for each other.

I was having something sent in an envelope (from Etsy) to a friend’s house, but put my name on the addressee line. I was traveling to visit them and wanted the item to meet me there. The local USPS branch denied delivery because they had no record of my name residing there, and returned the item to sender.

Like the tags with the plastic “string” that attaches then to the clothes? You’re not supposed to just rip that out, you’re supposed to cut the “string”. If that’s not what you’re referencing, then I have no idea the tags you are talking about, but I’m curious.

I have no need to use LLMs or other generative AI, and I have no desire to use them just because.

For creative outlets, it isn’t satisfying to me to use a tool that will instantly complete the task. If I’m prepping for a TTRPG session I would rather come up with the content myself, or use a random generator to give several ideas to build off of. I don’t have artistic skills, but I have more fulfilment from the basic drawings I can do, and for anything more complex I’ll just find something that comes closest to what I imagined as a visual aid.

For non-creative work, I can’t trust the results of an LLM to be factual. If I need to check the sources and confirm the output anyway, I might as well skip that step and just read the original sources myself. Or, use Wikipedia and other wiki sites as a quick reference for basic information and links to more detailed sources.

If I was working in a field that had to sit through large data sets or complex equations, I probably would look at machine learning models. But I don’t, so I have no need for it.

Genuine question, for people that regularly use AI (LLMs), why? What do you get out of it that makes you return to it again? Is it just convenience?

I think they are saying lemmings because they are addressing users of Lemmy, but still ironic